New Bride Guide: Keep calm, it's only a wedding

Firstly, congratulations on your engagement!

 Secondly you might want to get a pen and paper to jot some of this down...

Keep Calm It's Only A Wedding

Memorise the above phrase in your head, or write it down to look at from time to time, so thatwhen you lose your head, which will inevitably happen at least once in your wedding planning, you will remember what this day is actually all about...

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You and the love of your life.


It is not about impressing anyone, it has nothing to do with how much you have spent, it is about you and your husband-to-be (or wife-to-be) embarking on an amazing journey together, sharing it with your nearest and dearest and putting your personality on everything, not anyone else's.  


Remember that, because it is easy to become a homing beacon for opinions from everyone you know, even my butcher thinks he knows how my wedding should be, scarily accurate actually, but anyway the important thing is - is that it is what both you and your partner want.

I hate to say this and be the bringer of doom and gloom, but I do believe Wedding's are there to really see if you are ready to become a wife. The AMOUNT of organising that goes into planning one is insane. I do not envy wedding planners. I am very new to the wedding scene, with it being my first one ;) but, in the past three months I have had to learn a completely alien thing to me. 

I mean, I used to imagine my wedding day when I was a little girl, sure, I won't lie. Well I say imagined my wedding day, I mean sort of, all I thought about actually was my wedding dress, which I know is really selfish but I couldn't imagine what kind of man I would marry, so I just didn't imagine that part! I never imagined a venue in my head, just the amazing ivory wedding dress I'd wear and what shoes... I'm going off on one again aren't I? This is a symptom of a crazed B2B...which I think instead of Bride-to-Be, actually stands for Bitch-to-Be. Truthfully. If you don't believe me, watch an episode of Bridezilla's. 

Hand on your heart, can you honestly say if you had found your dream dress in a shop, in a sale, at half price, with another bride staring at it too, you wouldn't get the claws out and fight for that dress? maybe not literally, but you would reach a little quicker wouldn't you? or you would have to say something wouldn't you? We're only human ladies. We want what we want and we like what we like, that's how we roll from time to time. My fiance doesn't get this change in me and has lately looked a bit scared when I have been on one like this about certain suppliers and bargains, but hey ho, I'm getting results! 

 It's gonna happen, be prepared, because when it does, it sure as hell scares the people around you...and yourself!

But trust me, you will need a bit of fight in you to endure the next few months/years you have of your engagement.

You will be tried and tested, you will be let down, you will be happy, you will be sad, you will have to defend at least one of your ideas, be it by mothers, mother-in-laws, maids, even suppliers can drive you to a raging Bridezilla when you're 'in one', but just remember what it is all about, you and your partner celebrating becoming your own little family unit (well it is for me anyway). 

And just stop from time to time and think - 

"Keep calm, 

(recommended deep breath here)

it's only a wedding".

Instead of telling you childbirth is like having a really big poo, like my nan did to my mum (which my mum is still bitter about by the way), I told you the truth, there are the really really testing parts to planning a wedding, I'm not going to lie, but then the really really amazing parts that soon follow after make it all worth it. The moral of both situations; really painful and hard to bear at first, but so very worth it in the end :)

I don't know how I managed to compare my wedding day with childbirth... moving on!

And after all of that, this is going to sound really contradictory, but enjoy your engagement! 

No seriously, properly take the time to spend quality 'together' time with each other, it is why you are at this stage in the first place and planning a wedding, and I think, like me, you are actually rather enjoying it. Otherwise would you really be here in the first place? ;)


If you are wondering what a Bridezilla is by the way, imagine Godzilla, you know, the big dinosaur thing that got so mad it ate whole towns? yep, that's a bridezilla, only difference is, they are in a Bride's body, but they are just as scary.